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One of my mentees recently shared that he’s feeling really lonely lately. He lives with his family, has a beautiful partner and many friends, yet in his day to day, even when he is surrounded by others, he feels alone. I really understand him. There are so many moments when I notice that I am feeling disconnected even from my nearest and dearests in my life, for so many different reasons. Sometimes because our perspectives are different, sometimes because we aren’t managi

noticing the way the changing temperature of the air affects my skin my breath my mood. breathing as the seasons change as life moves and shifts this movement really affects my sense of being centered. since I was a little girl, I remember feeling a bit unsteady in the face of change as if my feet aren’t quite reaching all the way to the ground as if I am somewhere floating slightly above the earth untethered Do you feel ungrounded as the seasons change? Are you searchi

A few months ago, at a women’s retreat, a young woman shared - in the opening circle of the weekend - that she was pregnant, and the fetus was not going to live. The doctors offered her the option of aborting by taking medication, or waiting and letting the pregnancy naturally miscarry. She chose the latter, and shared that she could begin bleeding at any moment. I was blown away by her courage; she was the youngest woman in the group by far, and apart from me and one othe

I cannot tell you how many times this subject comes up in the women’s collective. It’s actually quite painful to recognize how well programmed we are to compete with one another. And it is really liberating to realize that we are all culturally programmed to compete. Talking about this with other women normalizes a potentially painful behavior and allows us to work with it. This programming is not natural. It is our natural tendency, as women, to collaborate. We are lif

A woman in the collective recently shared that she literally was sent home from work to take time to grieve. What a great boss! And what an unfortunately rare situation… It was coming to the anniversary of her mother’s death, and the woman was feeling the season of grief, and at the same time was carrying on, doing her daily tasks to keep her head above water. Inside, she was hurting, feeling her mom’s absence, even though she had died years ago. Her boss had also suffered

My daughter just got her first period (or you can feel it’s coming)...what to do? Congratulations! This is a moment of celebration to recognize and honor the girl, and her rising fertility. And…it's daunting! Your little girl is growing, and it can be really scary to think about what she needs from you in this next phase of life. It can literally take your breath away to think about her navigating our complex world. There is so much to say about this topic and there is no

Do you recognize this feeling, that you are giving with all of your heart to someone who seems to need your support, and they just don’t appreciate you! This happens in families, partnerships, friendships, work contexts…and often it can feel like you are not seen or recognized. This happens to SO MANY PEOPLE. Relationships breathe, and there are moments when one is giving more because the other needs to receive. Dynamism in relationships is healthy, and when you are sometime

After a workshop a few weeks ago, a young woman opened up to me about her struggle to focus her attention, to organize and prioritize tasks. “I must have ADHD, even though no one ever diagnosed me.” She cried as she talked about all of the things she wished she could accomplish, and the ways she feels like a failure for not having done them. As she shared, my heart broke. Her words were full of self judgement, a narrative of not being enough or making the best use of her t

One woman in our collective recently shared with me that she is feeling sexually shut down these days, not interested in her partner touching her, and that this is creating tension in their relationship. As we continued to talk, she and I both understood that she’s feeling tons of tension in her body for a variety of reasons and that she just doesn’t feel safe enough or relaxed enough to be intimate with her partner. She explained that these feelings have nothing to do with

I am. I am sure it has to do with the fact that it is the peak of summer and over 40 degrees here every day… and it is also connected to my pace of life, how many things I want to accomplish in any given day and how intensively I expect myself to be in action on an ongoing basis. What happened to the value of rest? There is so much to be said about the culture that demands from you to be in action all the time, to constantly produce, create, grow. Yet we know that it is si

How can you stay aware of the sacred in your day to day? I cannot tell you how many people have reached out to me asking for help to think about how to integrate an awareness of the sacred into their daily life. So often you can have a really powerful experience in a ceremony or a workshop or a simple moment with your beloveds and then when you return to the routine of daily life that moment feels like it is gone. Of course, it is really easy to respond by saying that e

A young woman recently shared with me that she is really struggling with commitment. She has expressed fears that saying “yes” to anything—projects, relationships, responsibilities—limits her. When I asked her what she is afraid of, why she chooses to decide about things at the last moment, her instinctive response was that she appreciates her freedom. Immediately, my inner voice whispered to me, that’s not freedom, that’s isolation. We live in a culture filled with endless

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How does it feel to you to stand at the crossroads of a decision? At some point in my life I realized that there is a distinct...

There is something about these times of fragmentation and separation of polarization and distance that leaves me feeling very alone. ...